So. It’s February 10th.

Two years ago I entered a service/reception relationship with my Ghost. In that time, it’s developed from a twice-a-week domestic-service arrangement into a 24/7 D/s dynamic (and primary romantic partnership, although the anniversary for that is still a couple of weeks off). My Ghost has been invaluable to me – as a servant, obviously, but also as a mentor. She’s been at this a lot longer than I have and her patience as I continue to find my feet means the world to me.

I know I’ve spent a good deal of time, with regards to this blog, thinking about D/s – various aspects of it and what they “mean”; which bits are hard for me, and which bits aren’t; what “type” of domme I am; and so on – and I’ve learned a lot by doing so. I collared my girl last May, and became her owner (a big deal in its own right), and we started sharing an apartment together.

But I think the Big Thing that happened to me over this past year is that receiving service normalized for me.

My Ghost asked me, the other day, what it was like to not have had to do dishes for two years. And the thing is: It feels normal. Like a big part of my brain/body/soemthing is going “Ah. Yes. This is how it’s supposed to be.”
Seriously. When we first started this (and for most of the first year, actually), I didn’t think I’d ever feel that way. Barely over a year ago, I was sitting on her couch, crying and wondering if I could Actually Do This or if I was just bound to disappoint her in the end.

And now – while I do still get occasional wobbles (ha – many of them blogged) – I find that I feel comfortable and even competent in my Place, in my dominance.

Who knew. πŸ™‚

Happy anniversary to us. πŸ™‚

~*~

On a tangentially-related note: Purely for the fun of it, and because we were joking about it the other day:

Kinky Anniversary Gift Themes (by year)[1]
1st: Paper (Papercuts; Formalized contract)
2nd: China (formal tea service – English or Japanese)
3rd: Crystal/Glass (Sex toys; Somalier course)
4th: Appliances (TENS unit; Vibrator; Crumb-collector; Creme Brulle Torch; etc)
5th: Leather (I’m sure you can think of something)
6th: Wood (Paddle; eco-friendly sex toys; stocks or other SM-related furniture; topiary)
7th: Silverware (pretty, pretty knives; Formal place-settings for one – or two?; Jewelry)
8th: Linens/Lace (lingerie, really suptuous bed sheets, tablecloths, perhaps a dog-bed)
9th: Steel (surgical tools, sex toys, piercings)
10th: Ink (“Property of…”)

I’ve only gone up to ten here, but I’m sure you can think of further options. πŸ˜€

~*~

TTFN,
Ms Syren.

[1] I’ve based these around a mix of “traditional” and “contemporary” gift themes for wedding anniversaries, and then mucked about with them a bit.